Finding Your Voice

State the main problem

If something feels wrong, it may not always be easy to say exactly what the problem is. Talk through it with yourself or with someone else who cares about you. There may be different parts to the problem. See if you can find the main, or biggest, problem and state it clearly.

Decide what you want to see happen

What outcome is most important to you? You might not always get everything you want, so try to figure out what would be the best solution for you.

Know your rights and responsibilities

Everyone has the right to make their own decisions, but it’s also important to know what you can or can’t do, according to the school, place of business, community, or the law. Find out what you’re entitled to and what you could reasonably expect.

Be proud and speak up!

Now that you know what the problem is, what solution you want, and what your rights are, ask for it with confidence. This might mean making a phone call, sending an email, or visiting someone to ask for what you need. Make sure you talk to the person who has the power to solve the problem. It might help to bring a trusted friend or family member with you in case you need help. 

Be polite, be patient, but be persistent!

Say thank you

It’s important to thank someone if they listen to you and help you. If you are kind and thankful, people will want to help you again.